How often do you find yourself saying you’ll do something, and then you don’t do it? I’ve always tried to be one of those people that will stick to what they say, but actually, it’s not always the case & it’s really starting to annoy me now.
Little things, to keep small people happy, like “yes bubs, we will probably visit the moon one day” don’t count, because, you never know, we might visit the moon when the Boy is older (unlikely, as the hubs doesn’t like heights but hey!) but things like promising to move soon, going on a plane, even things like arranging a night out with my best mate and then cancelling, they all add up. I don’t know where it became easy to say things, but harder to actually do them. Is it just life getting in the way or is it a case of becoming lazy? Once you start “not being bothered” is it just easy to continue it?
One bug bear I have is people who say they’ll do something and then it never materialises. Really, really annoys me. It’s right up there next to liars and I don’t tolerate them well, so the fact that I’ve started doing it myself isn’t sitting well with me!
I’ve found myself promising the kids things “once we’ve moved” a dog, a trampoline, sleepovers (hard when they share a room) and it feels like our life is on hold until we do move. Which, as much as it pisses us off, must be driving the kids insane. Which is how we ended up with a crazy puppy in an already too small flat. I couldn’t keep promising them something once we had managed to move out of here, it’s not their fault we’re still here – and I can guarantee they hate it almost as much as me. I just got sick of telling them they could have something “once we…..” Surely life is already too short to be delaying things? Where does it end? You could delay something forever and it will never happen.
Date nights with the man, spontaneous trips to the pub on a hot evening, they all get delayed because of something else. Then we (I) moan that it never happens. We’ve promised ourselves one night out together a month, we’ve been promising ourselves that since 2009. I think we’ve managed 3 nights out in that time. Why? Because we don’t do what we say we will. Nights out with the girls, hubs nights out with the blokes, all get delayed. For no good reason at all.
Of course, things that we need to wait for, money, holidays, winning the lottery, we have no choice but to sit and patiently wait for lady luck to shine on us, but when we have a choice and we decide to go the opposite way to what we have already said we’re going to do, well that’s just stupid.
I don’t want to wait anymore. I don’t want to keep promising my kids something that never happens. I don’t want to keep cancelling nights out, days out, parties, whatever. So I’m not going to. From now on I’m going to make damn sure I do what I say. If nothing else it will make sure I think before I speak!